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How to talk about anything and be well liked
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Goooood afternoon, my friend. (Or evening, morning, whenever you open) I was thinking today on my walk home from the river about the class I'll be teaching this May 15th about how to say what you mean and still be well-liked. Today, I was thinking about the awkward position one gets put in when someone says something you just. do. not. agree. with. You know, something political, or related to war, religion, or any other topic that you may have strong feelings about. What I hear most from clients when they get into this position is how they're faced with the problem of either AGREEING with the other person or arguing. Those are generally the two choices people believe they have. But what if there was a THIRD option that included neither of those things? I have tended bar for over a decade of my life. I started back in 2007 briefly, and then I picked it back up regularly in 2012. Now, I still do it on the weekends. One of the things a bartender is faced with is the challenge of responding when someone says something they don't agree with without attacking or arguing. This skill is necessary for us to cultivate because we often have people in front of us we have not met; we are giving them poison and then taking away their ability to make rational decisions. If, say, one of those people said something I deeply disagree with, I would need to "respond" but also not "agree." How does one do that masterful skill? Well, a lot of it is about the art of wording, what you respond to, what words you leave out, and how you skillfully balance adhering to your value system while giving their values space. This is just one of the many things we'll be going over in my three-hour event It will be a breath of fresh air from the typical "agree or argue" strategy that just leaves you exhausted. Tickets are $25- It's worth so much more than that by the time you factor in all the money you'll save saying "no" to things you don't want to go to, and all the ways you'll be advocating for your worth. Buy a ticket here 👇🏻
I can't wait to see you there! Email me with Q's Stay beautiful Andee |
Andee Scarantino at Get the F*ck Off
I'm a Mindset and Transformational coach on a mission to make personal development digestible. I'm the creator of getthefuckoff.com - lotus information for non-lotus people. Spiritual life coach whose website is routinely flagged as porn 🤷🏻♀️🤣🧘🏻♀️ Whoops
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